We are here looking for the other people who live this life and understand how difficult and, at times, painful this career is with which to live since the majority of people think like you until they see our families in action. Another thing to keep in mind: It's a very long, very hard journey to even get to that point of the MD marathon. That of course does not mean all eternal marriages should have been entered into or will succeed. Living in an interfaith, marriage can be hell. Thanks for sharing your story. I worked my butt off and supported our family through internship, residency and two fellowships always looking forward to the day when he would finally be in practice and things would get 'easier". Ultimately we broke up. For the first time in my life, at age twenty-seven, I am in a relationship that is good and loving and serious enough that I believe it may lead to marriage. I got married last year, left a great job, family, friends and city to be with my husband in a very small under developed town.
I was off travelling the world when I met and fell madly in love with a deployed Marine. LDSdotOrg is mostly propaganda. After our child was born, I can say that my resentment of my husband started to grow and overshadow the respect I have for what he does. I wouldn't end a relationship with her, just as I wouldn't deny someone a job, or refuse to socialize with someone who is a Mormon. In 5 years, one thing has become certain to me. Mormons think when you die, based on if you were a good person cough cough atheists you go to spirit "paradise" where they will teach you the gospel. But, as soon as the marriage happened, the Mormon spouse goes full on Orthodox and expects the non Mormon to comply. True Believer Mos base their actions on a set of priorities that make no sense to Nomos. Break it off amicably now, before it gets too difficult.
Unless you have those same understandings, I'm sad to say the relationship is almost certainly doomed. Is it wrong that I feel guilty?. There may be underlying personality similarities, but if the answer to "what shall I do next" is always trumped by a Morman frame of reference for one partner, but not the other, conflict is inevitable.
You've made good points about not bringing up the CES letter or anything that could be called "anti-mormon. If I could I would marry a businessman or a builder which could have earned us a lot more and wouldn't mean we had to move so much. Marrying a non-Mormon is not something you do it is something that happens. It would be ludicrous to think otherwise.