When I was 11 years old, my mother silently snuck into my bedroom. Under the cover of midnight, she sat cross-legged at the end of my bed and proceeded to give me The Talk, although it was more of a whisper. Instead of focusing on the anatomy of sex — the biological prophecies by which, some say, our bodies were made to meld into one — my mother chose to emphasize pleasure. She spoke about the importance of passion: pursuing it, asking for it and finding it within yourself. Society has a tendency to perpetuate this idea that the older a woman grows, the more she yearns for the beauty of her youth. It was once bewildering to me that my mother could be so candid about sex. But after speaking with Sylvia, Barbara and Michele — all women 70 or older — about their relationships to pleasure, I now realize that some women only grow more comfortable in their sexualities and in their bodies as they age. I was born in Alexandria, Egypt, but I left very early as a stateless political refugee. We had a very hard time getting to the United States because the immigration quota system was in effect there — there were something like 17 Egyptians allowed in annually. We spent several years moving around Europe just trying to make it to the top of that list.
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Do women want steamy sex or just a companionable cuddle? Bettina Arndt reveals what really gets women going. What do most women of a certain age want? Melbourne-based psychiatry professor Lorraine Dennerstein conducted path-breaking research on menopause which found many women reported a drop in libido at this stage of life. But not all women. Those who found themselves with a new man reported their sex drives were flourishing! Of course there are older women who simply never lose their sex drives, or who miraculously regain interest once young sprogs are off their hands. Then there are women who find themselves with partners who lose interest, perhaps due to problems with erections, and suddenly realise they really miss physical intimacy. So some older women are keen for more action, but it is more common for senior females to find they have no spontaneous desire—sex is simply never on their agenda.
Sylvia, 70
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Are you in a relationship with a woman more than a few years your senior, or do you just dream of having sex with an older woman and wonder what it would be like? The relationship - or sex - can be rewarding, if you know what to expect. All women are different, no matter their age. Open communication is the key to a fulfilling sexual relationship. If you're in a new relationship or you're looking to have sex with an older woman, keep in mind how different views on sex could be exacerbated by an age gap. A young man looking to "hook up" may not have the same outlook on sex as an older woman looking for a committed relationship. Men think of sex as a physical connection primarily, but women think of it as an emotional and physical one. An older woman may even wonder if it's OK to be interested in someone much younger , so she could question her wishes to have sex with a younger man even if their relationship has been building over time. If she's recently divorced, she may wonder how soon is too soon to be interested in having sex with someone else-and fear that her interest in a much younger man is inappropriate or related to getting over the shock and pain of divorce.
